know this won't be a popular post, but I'm up to HERE with you perfect moms that are the perfect spouses.
Women, can we NOT with the husband/man bashing?
It's one thing to ask for advice when it comes to your relationship, but can we hop off the train where everyone posts that our husbands/SO's (significant other) are pieces of shit? Because here's the thing, if your husband ACTUALLY is a piece of shit, mom groups have taught me that 96% of y'all have secret stashes of money you hide from your husband, soooo, get out! And honestly, if you truly are in a horrible relationship, that really sucks. YOU can do better and those posts make me sad. But those aren't the ones I'm talking about. I'm not going to hate on those ones because that's not fair. I like to complain about petty shit. Not REAL shit. So you ladies get a pass and I hope you get that support you need to make the best decision for you.
You know the posts I'm referring to.
And if your SO is just a NORMAL human being (which I deduce is the case the majority of the time based on the post) that isn't perfect, perhaps instead of hopping online and starting a thread encouraging everyone else to talk about how much they all hate their husbands, you sit down and have a chat with your "DH."
I'm tired as fuck of posts like this:
"Who else here hates their husband?!" (OMG let's be friendsies!)
"Who else has DH who does EVERYTHING wrong?" (Ug, he put the purple plates away in the wrong cabinet, AGAIN. Kill me now.)
"Who else wants to slap the shit out of their SO on a daily basis?" (I usually just go for the bat!)
I'm tired of women complaining about shit like:
"My husband surprised me by saying he's planning us a Vegas getaway! But, then when I asked him what he had booked, he said he hadn't booked a hotel yet. He can't do anything right. Just once I want him to do something for me. Whhhhhhyyyy me? Am I overreacting?"
YES. YES YOU ARE OVERREACTING. YES YOU ARE BEING RIDICULOUS. STOP SETTING UP YOUR SO TO FAIL.
"Can you believe it? We were on the freeway and the car needed gas and he asked me to look up nearby gas stations. It's like, can't he just look out the window for himself?"
Seriously, are you just trying to find ways to make me feel bad for your husband right now?
You know who I vent to when my husband is being ridiculous? My friends. NOT a "closed" COMMUNITY FORUM OF 6,000 women. Why? Because my friends know everything about us- not just the one side I present that's convenient for me when I want people to be on my side. Also, I respect my husband. I don't consider it a quality bonding activity to talk shit about him on the internet and get everyone on "my side" because he ONLY BOUGHT ME A MOTHER'S DAY CARD THE NIGHT BEFORE MOTHER'S DAY. I'm not going to pander to your bullshit because it's popular and we're supposed to be here for "support." Sometimes real support is tough love.
By the way, my husband bought my my Mother's Day Card when I was one aisle over in Target. GASP. We're headed to splitsville right? (It was the perfect card, BTW. But, some of you women would have me convinced I need to cut his balls off.) Maybe if I complain about it on one of the 46 local Facebook mom groups I'm a part of, they'll fix it. Surely they'll be the ones to make it all better. Not my husband, because he apparently can't do anything right, so he's certainly going to be the last person I talk to about our relationship!
MAYBE, stay with me, MAYBE the reason your hubs and you aren't bathing with rose pedals right now is because you brag about how long you've gone with-holding sex from him, yell at him when he does the dishes wrong, and think that essential oils, not communication, is the solution to everything.
No, wait. I forgot...you're perfect, and so are your temper tantrums.